Love Breakups Zindagi (no….its got nothing to do with the movie plus I haven’t seen it either)
Well, this is something most of us would have gone through. Love they say happens once in a lifetime. But then if it is true then why does a break up happen?
Before I start, this post goes on the assumption that the relationships I am talking about are the one involving true love and not the timepass ones.
Love as good as it would have been guess has a direct impact on the breakup if it may occur.
Assuming most have been in a relationship before and that the chosen fortunate ones are quite who haven’t had a break up ever, most of us still would have thoughts related to that part of life which would have impacted us deeply.
Every relationship that we would have been is something unique and none of them would have been same to each other. The very fact that what you felt was needed(or the other person felt) was missing lead to a breakup and there is little reason that you would want to get into a relationship with the same kind of person.
Well there might be some characteristics and traits which would be common( for eg. In my case positive thinking, mature ,independent-thinking, self-dependent) but there would be that something new which will attract you to the next one.
But why do breakups happen? Are they tough to digest? Or are they mutual and there are no hard feelings at end?
I guess that’s a question an individual has to answer taking his feelings into account. I personally feel that no breakup can be a good one where both the parties involved agree to part in good terms. Coz I feel that if there is true love involved you will try your level best in order to save the relationship. If the unfortunate event does happen then the person who truly loves the other is bound to feel aggrieved. If there is no true love involved then that’s a different case altogether. But this is my viewpoint. And I don’t expect you to agree with me in this case.
How do breakups affect life? I can speak for me and the male gender as such, but I guess I wouldn’t be in a good enough position to comment on the female gender. Men may feel aggrieved initially(on the assumption that there was true love involved) and feel for the gem they might have lost. But then, men…being men wont show their emotion’s outside to the world with the fear of being taken as a weakling. Hence they wont even end up discussing it with someone close in order to lighten their image. The uber cool dude image is something they wouldn’t want to mess with. But trust me, for a guy who has been in a relationship for a long time , its not really that easy to get over the girl he truly loved. That’s when some of them take a decision not let another girl enter their life but rather have fun around or be cautious with the way they behave .These two scenarios don’t happen side by side and I guess it would be one of the two. This is when they may meet someone else who would enter their lie.
What about girls!?........................................................
I have never ever understood girls in my life and hence I guess there is no way I am gonna be able to understand what they would do in case of a break up ?
Girls though invest a lot into the relationship than their male counterparts. They work a bit on their emotional side whereas men are more practical. It would be ok for a guy not to hear sweet nothings on the phone but that may not be the case with a girl. She may not show the fact but then a little attention to them by their guys would do a lot for the relationships. Men don’t keep track of small small things and that may not affect them, but for girls it means a lot. They consider it as a way in which a guy would be showing affection and paying attention to them.
This is where the entire issue lies. A girl always needs someone to be with them. In sense a shoulder to lean upon which is a good thing. According to them however intellectually mature or independent the girl may be, their guy is nothing less than a greek god and they expect him to take care of them. But then a guy seldom realizes that and they kind of cannot take this dis-attachment beyond a time by which they would have gone on an emotional roller coaster on their own.
But there are also cases when the girls overdo their part a bit and start getting pissed off at the flimsiest of reasons (*tumne mujhe aaj I love you kyon nahi bola*). Well in such a relationship , love becomes too suffocating for love itself to exist. This is where a guy may lose it and decide to call things off.
Life’s special and I certainly don’t believe in the fact that true love happens once. The intensity does vary over the years .Your first true love will always be your first true love and something else may or may not be able to surpass your feelings about it. You may feel comfortable or uncomfortable in front of your ex depending upon how you take it. That eventually happens to be a personal decision.
We all here may have found our perfect other half or may still be waiting to catch the right bus. But the journey as such is a beautiful one with its ups and downs. Each relationship shows what’s good in you and each break up shows what may have been wrong with you (even though you would be the one who called it off).You learn about people ,their peers and in the process end up learning a lot about yourself.
Each break up which you have ( I hope you don’t have any and not it’s not that I am canvassing for the break up experience here) lets you think what was right and what was wrong and you become a better person as such because you know now how you have to go forward from now on.
Some of you may think that what I have written doesn’t make sense and real life is much simpler. But give my words a though, analyse ad contemplate an you would the entire picture forming in front of you. A picture depicting no else but you .
So my first blog post in two years ends here.
|Hope the gap between posts doesn’t increase but comes down.
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